Discover the 6 unusual secrets of extremely happy and healthy people that can transform your life. In this article, you will learn how to stop searching for happiness and embrace the happiness that is already within you. You'll also find out how to sense your connectedness with others and create a high-consciousness life. Additionally, you'll discover the importance of focusing on work and creating value in the world rather than constantly trying to fix perceived problems. Moreover, you'll learn how to prioritize light-heartedness and befriend the darker aspects of life. Lastly, you'll understand the power of actively practicing compassion and seeing the best in others. By implementing these secrets, you can achieve a greater sense of happiness and wellness in your life.
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They stop searching
Searching for happiness leads to unhappiness. Realizing that happiness is already within us. Approaching life from a place of happiness.
A curious thing happens when we do as 99% of humans do, which is to search for happiness: we become unhappy. If we’re knowingly pursuing the illusion of ‘happiness’, we are unwittingly communicating to ourselves that we’re — you guessed it — not happy. The chase emphasizes the lack. When I reveal to my clients they already have everything they need to be happy, right here, right now — I always enjoy watching the relief wash over them. ‘You mean I don’t need to get rid of X to be happy?’ You can prioritize those things if you like. But you do it from a place of wholeness and innate happiness. When you approach life from happiness, you perform 100x better.
They sense connectedness
Feeling connected to others and the world around them. Creating the reality they want. Confirmation of connection leads to happiness.
Recently, as I was sitting taking notes by the river, someone waved at me from a passing boat. Whether it was aimed at me or not didn’t matter. I waved back in acknowledgment of my understanding and confirmation that we were all connected. To sense the connection we have with all things is happiness. By creating the reality we want, we confirm it. If we see others as connected, we are connected. If we see ourselves as a victim or an island, we create that reality and we feel the depression of that reality. Seeing continual confirmation of your connection to other people, regardless of who they are, is a high-consciousness life hack.
They stop focusing on healing
Therapy can be necessary but focusing on it is detrimental. Focusing on personal growth and helping others. Realizing mental wellness is always there.
For those with significant mental health or other problems, some kind of therapy for some time can be necessary. But after a point, I believe that attention given to one’s ‘mental health’ is to your detriment. When we focus on fixing our perceived problems, we inadvertently emphasize our issues in the mind, thus enlarging them. Instead, we must focus on our work, developing our skills, creating value in the world, and helping others. That gets us out of our heads, away from our narcissistic self-obsession. When we do this, we realize the mental wellness that was there all along.
They prioritize light-heartedness
Maintaining a light-hearted approach to life. Keeping people around them uplifted. Transcending focus on miseries.
The ‘happiest’ people by no means have ideal lives. No one does, dumb dumb. Even the people you envy are dealing with stuff you don’t want. What happy people have in common is maintaining a continual need to keep things light. I’m not saying you should be the over-the-top insufferable pun joke-telling guy who smiles when things need to appropriately be more low-key. No. I’m talking about being light-hearted where appropriate and keeping the people around them lifted. Most people are focused on their miseries. Happy people transcend this and actively practice the art of light-heartedness.
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They befriend the dark
Accepting and acknowledging the darker elements of life. Not resisting or avoiding negative experiences. Embracing reality as it is.
Want to know the quickest way to be continually miserable? Resist ‘bad’ stuff. Resist your inner shadow side. Refuse to accept the cruelty of human nature. Moan when it rains. You could never enjoy life if there weren’t darker moments. And you could never truly embrace human nature, or yourself, if you didn’t accept and acknowledge our darker elements. Happy people have accepted the horrors lurking in the dimly lit avenues of the world around us. They don’t reel off hundreds of affirmations with a forced smile hoping and praying the bad things get covered up like clown paint and disappear. Happy people are not deluded. They accept. They use their aggressive nature. They learn to love reality for what it is.
They're actively compassionate
Finding things to like in others. Expecting the best in others. Opening up to humanity and mutual joy.
No one is born any less compassionate than the next person, even though it doesn’t seem that way as we mature. But we always have a choice. We can find things to like in other people. We can find reasons to love others (even if they choose to dye their hair blue). Compassion is part of what it means to be human. It isn’t to be deluded or a ‘hopeless optimist.’ It is to open up to humanity and expect the best in others. It is to see ourselves in others. When we do the opposite, we become jaded and bitter, tighten around people, and fail to seize opportunities for healthy collaboration and mutual joy. We lose the most in the end.
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